HEY HEY....SO YOU WANT TO BE FAMOUS

Just in case you're not cool...the title of this blog is the hook to a B.O.B song. I love Bobby Ray.

But my love for my future baby daddy ...Bobby Ray aka B.O.B is not what this blog is about.

This blog is a reflection on my life...for the past week.

This week I have been a life coach. I the unemployed, out of work, living off savings aspiring actress, producer and writer has been a life coach to beautiful, talented, working actors.

The irony of the situation speaks for itself. I am not complaining. I love my friends and I am happy for all of them. I feel honored that I am the one people call on when they need someone to talk to.

But it does make me think....

The entertainment industry can kill your spirit. It can make you an entirely different person than you set out to be. I know. I've changed. I became someone I didn't much care for. I began drinking to much. I started hanging out with people that normally I wouldn't. I felt myself slowly slipping away. I cared to much about the fame, the names and what the so called "cool" kids were doing. I became one of the "cool" kids. But at what price?

Luckily for me I over think when I am alone. I analyze everything including myself and my future And I didn't like what I saw. So I sat down and prayed. First, I went to God for forgiveness. I asked him to help me make better choices in my life and to guide my path.

So I stopped hanging with certain people. Stopped going out. Started trying to build actual friendships. People who care about me not about the perks that came with the career I chose. Then I was blessed.

With Kenya...a month away from the materialistic society we live in. Time to actually give of myself. To put smiles on children's faces by just doing the simplest of tasks. I worked harder there than I ever have in my life. It was absolutely amazing, challenging and just plain incredible. (also a great diet...lost 12lbs woooohooo)

Now I am back...and I am trying to keep my sanity in an insane world. Trying to have some sense of morality in an industry that is very morally corrupt. Trying not to revert to my former party girl self. The streets are not the place for me. Although I miss my friends. I miss dancing. (I need to find a non hood, non drunk and drug infested place to shake what my momma gave me)

I have fallen short but I am still blessed. I am not ashamed of my past but it's just that PASSED. I've moved on. I will continue to make mistakes, I am human but I pray each mistake brings a new lesson. And each lesson is a blessing.

So you want to be famous...which I completely understand.
Just remember who YOU are before the fame, remember who your REAL friends are.
Some people will latch on on the way up so they may seem like a friend because they were there when there was nothing but in actuality they are just along for the ride.

I've grown up with some incredibly talented people and I have watched them all evolve into who they are today. Some are the same exact people. Some have changed for the better. Some I pray they find who they once were and get reacquainted with that person.(Or perhaps their real personality has emerged)

Don't seek fame. Seek a career. Set goals and work towards those.

In this day in age we are over run by Real Housewives, Basketball Wives, Bad Girls Club, Heidis and Spencers and of course those Kardashians. People who are famous for NO reason. Not talent, no skill, NOTHING. My question is....WHY?

Why want fame so bad that you are willing to let the world into your personal life? You are choosing fame over something else missing in your life?

BE YOU and be proud of who you are.

and now a Word from our sponsor

1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”